31 May 2012

A Mile In My Shoes

Tonight, as I was driving back from picking up dinner, I watched a C-130 circle around our apartment, wheels out, as it readied for its landing on McChord field. I wondered to myself if that was the same C-130 that would be taking my husband off on another of his grand adventures.

One of the questions I am asked most often is, "How do you do it?" Do what? How do I stand slipping into a cold bed at night, knowing that there's not going to be anyone there to warm it up? Or how do I stand listening to my two year old son walking around the house calling for his daddy? Or is it how do I manage to get up in the morning, listening to the news for any sign of trouble, while pretending that everything is okay? There's really only one answer: it's because you don't have a choice.

That's what most non-Military families fail to understand. We don't do this because we're special, because we think we're somehow better than others, because for some reason, we're stronger (mentally and emotionally) than the average person. It's because for us, there's no other option. Sure, I could choose to stay in bed all day, sleeping away the length of time he's gone, sinking into a depression that can only be reversed with his coming home. I won't lie, some days, that's exactly what I want to do, until I hear my two year old start waking up in his room, giggling and talking, and I know it's time to start a new day. My one night of self-pity is over. It's time to carry on.

My husband is at war. He's not sitting in some nice, cushy jet flying to a week long business meeting, or travelling to some exotic location for a company getaway. He's in a war zone, carrying a gun. There is every chance that he could be shot or worse. Those are the harsh realities we face everyday. What I wouldn't give to have him lying on a beach somewhere instead of in 60 pounds of gear that's meant to save his life.

When a civilian looks my husband in the eye and says, "Thank you for your service", they fail to see the tears shed the night he leaves. They don't see the missed birthdays and anniversaries. They don't see the last goodbye's, the midnight Skype calls, the worry or the dread, the absolute heart ache.

Most of you will never understand what this life is like, and I pray everyday that you never have to. 

30 May 2012

I Clicked It Up A Notch: May Contest

I really love these monthly contests. It's a great opportunity to see how much I've grown in my own skills. There were so many pictures that I took this past month that I would love to share, however, this one was the winner (for me). We had to celebrate my son's second birthday two weeks early since my husband will not be here to celebrate it with us on the day of.




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Click It Up A Notch

19 May 2012

Real Mom Moments

The Good: I've been reminded almost daily about how amazing it is to be a stay at home mom again. Yes, there are moments where I just need to get away, but being there when Balian wakes up in the morning, being able to put him to bed at night, kissing all of his owies and comforting his fears, that's what makes it  all worth it.

The Bad: The past few days I've been slipping slowly into an insanity coma. Balian has been (almost literally) attached to my hip. Any time he's been set down, I've walked out of the room, anything, he's screamed and come running, little hands beckoning me to come back. I can't even pee without him crawling into my lap.

The Ugly: Balian woke up screaming last night around 3 am, drenched to the bone. He's going to be a bedwetter until he's at least five. If not six. Or later. I changed his diaper and his clothes (during which he screamed... He apparently has an affinity for feetie pajama's), moved his blanket over the wet spot in the bed, and shifted him onto a dry spot. Don't judge.